Ever look a something like a painting that’s a couple inches from your face. You can’t really get a good picture of it. You’re too close to the object and it distorts your vision. The colors, the purpose, the artists vision is just too near to us, to quite make out its meaning. Then when we simply, take a few steps back, things begin to come into focus.
There comes a time in our lives when we are ready to process the many things we’ve learned in order to make some changes. We want to assess where we are and move towards some personal development goals. But we have a problem. We may be to close to the heart of the issue. The bottleneck is us. It could be right under our nose. Starring us right in the face. But we just can’t see it. Sometimes we can’t really begin to explore all of our problem fixing mechanisms until….The problems gets much worse than they already are.
Let’s take the Frog Principle for instance –
Try placing Frog A inside a pot of boiling water. What happens? He says “‘Hey. It’s hot in here”! He jumps out. Why? Because he senses that he is becoming frog stew.
Then there’s Frog B. Place him inside a pot of luke warm to very warm water, then turn the heat on. Now wait til the water reaches a particular point near boiling point. Frog B then thinks “Ooh… it’s a little warm in here’. But, ‘I can stand it.”
People rarely make meaningful changes until the pain of staying is greater than the pain of moving... Did you get that? We won’t jump out of the mess we’re in until it get’s too hot to stay where we are.
A few friends say, “Girl you need to check that attitude”. It’s easy to shrug those comments off. They’re just jealous. Then you get fired from your job. You’re mate leaves you. No one will return your phone calls. Your health is failing. You’re in a personal free fall. Your mind is not what it use to be. You now want to call Oprah, Dr. Phil, Tony Robbins or any personal development coach who can turn around this sinking ship of a life.
Once an individual has that alone time. That quiet time. That time to reflect. That’s when we are able to see the signs. The signals begin to show.
Other signs of the free fall are seen when seemingly all of our jeans and shirts appear to have shrunk in the wash. When will we give up eating candies and chocolates? When our teeth have fallen out?
When will we understand that we have to quit smoking? When our lungs collapse? When the Surgeon General himself knocks the cigarette pack out of our hands?
A recent sports star is in the news as a shining example of not seeing the road signals ahead. Everyone told him that he was free falling. Instead he thought he was just flying. It’s tragic.
The only real time that many of us find the courage and wisdom to seek personal development enrichment and take hold of our life, is directly after the world has crashed around us. But it doesn’t have to be.
Change can happen, believe it or deny it. At some point, many of us are likely to experience drastic turning points within our existence – and we’re all likely to seek whatever form of help that can produce some sort of mind-shift.
Happy, forward minded, success driven people don’t just accept change, they embrace it. Now, it’s not necessary to feel a significant “aha” moment before recognizing the requirement for personal development help. We just need to feel a little heat.
Personal development might not be everybody’s favorite word. But then, everyone shouldn’t have to have their meals cooked boiling hot either. Development arenas are all around us. Diet food programs; Exercise gyms; Personal Developmental courses online; Wealth creation courses; Work at home jobs. But sometimes the problem is, that the answers are too close to our eyes.
Adrian Cox
Contributor, Yes Success Biz